His Secret Obsession Full Review 2019
I’ve been reading His Secret Obsession by James Bauer for the second time now and I decided to write this review because I know there are tons of fake reviews out there about books and products. For the rest of the article, HSO means His Secret Obsession because that’s just a long word to type a lot of times. So you’ll appreciate my laziness 🙂
HSO is all about saying the right things to a man so that he not only falls in love with you, you also become his secret obsession. And while that might be a good thing in the beginning of a relationship, personally, I think it would become somewhat of a dangerous situation. But, this book makes sure that you don’t reach that point.
Look, I’ll cut out all the funny stuff here. Let’s look at relationships in the realest way possible. I’ll divide a relationship into 3 stages:
Stage 1. You guys are very attracted to each other. And you just can’t spend enough time together
Stage 2. You guys are now in a relationship for a couple of months and the excitement is dying down. This is what most people call the end of the honeymoon phase.
Stage 3. By this point you guys are in the relationship for about a year or two and you guys literally feel no excitement whatsoever.
What 95% of us forget about relationships, is that every relationship needs seduction from time to time to rekindle that passion and excitement that you guys had in the beginning. The goal of HSO is that you keep the relationship in stage 2 and you can keep rekindling the excitement and the passion when you notice that it’s dying down. That way, you can have a strong, long lasting relationship that would hopefully last a lifetime.
Before I spill the beans about whether you should get this book or not, let’s take the time to look at what it’s really about.
What is HSO About?
The basic idea of this book is that it wants to help women learn phrases and tricks that they can use to make their relationship strong and improve the strength of their with the guy. It basically dives deep into the male psyche to help women understand what phrases they can use to invoke certain emotions.
And not only that, it also explains why those phrases trigger those emotions. So it’s not a step by step to improve the situation of your relationship, it helps you understand what your partner thinks like, and how you can help him get what he wants out of the relationship, while also making sure that you are getting what you want as well.
So, basically, it’s creating a win-win situation by making sure that both persons needs are met.
James Bauer calls invoking these emotions – Hero Instinct.
The Hero Instinct is the same as any other instinct like hunger and thirst that drives every human being. Once you invoke this instinct using the phrases he mentions in the book, you will start to become the most alluring woman in his life and will step up to claim you as his one and only woman.
I know this all sounds like a lot of woo-woo but trust me, it works. I’ve tried it on my boyfriend and it works like crazy. We’ve done a complete 180 on our relationship since I started using these phrases. And don’t worry, Bauer includes a step by step guide that you can use to activate this Hero Instinct.
Honestly, I think the name Hero Instinct is a bit cheesy, but whatever. If it works, it works. I don’t mind using it as it is.
But remember, this is no magic.
Let’s dive into the details of this book so you know what it’s about:
1. Relationship List
You might think that this is the list that you can use to divide men into different categories like: cuddling, going to clubs with, dating, etc.
But it’s the other way around. It’s a list of traits that you can pick up to make men think that you are relationship material.
2. Get the Ex Back
Let’s be honest, nobody loves breakups. They are usually messy and it hurts both parties. But if you are one of those women who are reluctant and not ready to move on. You just want the guy you were in the relationship with, James has some tips that you can use to make you ex come back to you.
3. Giving a Glimpse
Let’s say you guys met for the first time. And you find out that he has a great personality and you want him to be really really attracted to you. Well, there are techniques you can use to make sure that you’re just giving him enough of a glimpse that he would want to know more about you.
Personally, I think this is the best thing that the book teaches women.
4. Stuck on an Island
It’s the usual “what would you do if you were stuck on an island” scenario. But this time, it’s about you weighing the pros and cons of the relationship and whether or not you want your man to be stuck on this island with you and both of you never wanting to leave the place.
5. I Own You
Now this might sound very manipulative, but trust me, it’s not. It’s just a bad name James chose for this section. I blame him for this.
The point of this section of the book is to teach women to create an environment where you can help your man open up to you even more. To allow him to share his secrets, weaknesses and insecurities with you so you guys have a deeper bond together.
6. The Activation Signal
This is the section where you’ll learn how you can use your hidden talents that you just learned from the book to activate the hero instinct in your man.
Ready to take action?
Is this Book for You? When Should You Read it?
Now, there’s no doubt that this book to written for women. Now, the whole world might think that men are simple minded and they only want one thing, you know that’s not the truth. That’s the reason why you’re reading this review.
After going through the book, I noticed that many of the pieces of information in this book are very insightful. And especially useful for the women who are looking for it. James Bauer has definitely done his research and is experienced enough, I’ll give him that.
For women, I definitely recommend that you read this book. Even if your relationship is going smoothly right now, you need to be prepared when it starts going through the turbulence. That’s when you’ll need to be ready to have this information at your disposal. I’ve seen so many cute and good relationships get destroyed just because none of the partners were willing to put in a little bit of seduction in there to bring back the passion and excitement.
Relationships are hard work. But it’s worth it to be so close to someone.
But if you’re a man, you should read it too over a weekend when you’ve got no plans. It might even be funny for you given the irony of some of the sections. I know this because my boyfriend has gone through the book and pointed those things out to me. And now that I think of it, it kinda is ironic lol.
I have to say, the title of this book is very cheesy. And it sounds like that it will feed on the insecurity of the man and allow the woman to use that insecurity to invoke certain emotions in the guy. But I was wrong. This book definitely has a lot of thoughtful ideas and techniques that I’ve personally used for my relationship.
And it has made things better. It definitely exceeded my expectations when it comes to books and how applicable they are.
I don’t want to end this review by leaving you hanging in there. I’ll nudge you in the right decision. If you think you could use a bit more love in your relationship, definitely get the book. Ignore the title (I know it sounds like a cash grab, but it’s not, trust me). Go through the book twice and apply it.
But if your relationship is going smooth. Or maybe you’ve just gotten into a new relationship and you guys are still in the honeymoon phase, you should get this book too. Because all relationships follow a predictable pattern that I mentioned in the 3 stages above. So before you hit stage 3, you know what you have to do.
But if you already know what to do to invoke passion and excitement into your relationship, then you shouldn’t get this book. Or if you’re a guy, you shouldn’t get it either, unless you want to be amused at the things that us women need to be taught, which would be really cute of you.
Lastly, I’d give this book a 4.5 out of 5 stars. Definitely worth the money and the time I took to read it and apply.
So what are you waiting for? Go get the book! www.HisSecretOBsession.com